I am gay and love my partner who is gay. In 1988 I remember the discussion that took place. At that time I was married with 2 young sons. My brother had just come out and introduced our family to his gay partner.
I was struggling with my sexuality. The message I was getting from my United Church minister was that it was sinful to be a homosexual — love the sinner and hate the sin. This did not help me reveal my true self.
When I eventually came out of the closet, I received no help from my minister other than recommending that there were places that cured people like me.
Luckily I found an accepting and now Affirming church that accepts me as I am. I even became an Elder and Clerk of Session in my church.
I am not looking for an official apology. I have made mistakes in my life and the church has made mistakes in the past. We must move on and live the apology.
Written at an Iridesce workshop in Emmanuel United Church, Ontario
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