29 years ago, The United Church of Canada did something historic when it voted not to exclude gay and lesbian people from eligibility for ministry and membership. This vote was celebrated by many and brought communities together. At the same time, this vote proved deeply divisive for some communities. Iridesce is asking people to reflect on this time and this decision throughout our history. 


Collected here are reflections, stories and community art that reflects our time of personal and community remembering, acknowledging, lament and sharing around topics of LGBTQ2+ experience in The United Church of Canada, from the time of our 1988 vote, through 'the issue years', up until today. You are welcome and invited to share about your experiences too.

My partner and I grew up in the Roman Catholic Church and made a conscious decision to join the Unit...

Dear LGBTQ people,

I’m so sorry for the way we in the church have

not listened

not heard

not understood


Dear Anonymous (writer of I learned love and faith were always okay and beautiful), 

First of al...

I used to think most United Churches were Affirming, but now I realize that even within the United C...

I’d like to tell gay, lesbian or trans people that there are more people like me out there… willing...

Dear United Church, 

I want you to know that you were my dream church. I remember in 1998 I was a hig...

I am an open (but aging) GM and I have been active in McKillop United Church, but after 1988 they se...

Dear LGBTQ People, 

I’m so sorry for the way we in the church as allies have such a hard time giving...

I am glad my local United Church has taken steps to become Affirming. But I was shocked to learn onl...

Dear Anne, 

I heard your story. 

I heard your pain. 

I heard your stunned amazement at the hate-filled...

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To contribute your perspective or experience: write, make a video, create draw, paint, collage, collect artifacts… it’s up to you.

Email your contribution to livingapology@gmail.com along with a signed consent form. Download the form: PDF or .docx

Stories can be as anonymous (or not) as you prefer, and will never be shared without your clear consent.

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