29 years ago, The United Church of Canada did something historic when it voted not to exclude gay and lesbian people from eligibility for ministry and membership. This vote was celebrated by many and brought communities together. At the same time, this vote proved deeply divisive for some communities. Iridesce is asking people to reflect on this time and this decision throughout our history. 


Collected here are reflections, stories and community art that reflects our time of personal and community remembering, acknowledging, lament and sharing around topics of LGBTQ2+ experience in The United Church of Canada, from the time of our 1988 vote, through 'the issue years', up until today. You are welcome and invited to share about your experiences too.

Dear LGBTQ people,

I’m so sorry for the way we in the church have

not listened

not heard

not understood


I wish this issue

I wish this issue would come to a place of love, forgiveness and total healing. I w...

I was there in 1988 and I remember how joyful I was that the United Church was at last accepting of...

I am intersex, bisexual & transgender, and I would like to apologize to God. I grew up in another or...

I’d like to tell gay, lesbian or trans Christian people that I’m sorry that other Christians have be...

Dear LGBTQ People, 

I am sorry for the incredible pain and loss you have gone through in leaving your...

Dear LGBTQ People, 

I’m so sorry for the way we in the church as allies have such a hard time giving...

Background: This important story outlines the experiences of a minister newly ordained just before t...

I have resisted the invitation to participate in Iridesce. After 35 years of ministry and on the cus...

I wish I had known how to support young people who were struggling with rejection, depression and ho...

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To contribute your perspective or experience: write, make a video, create draw, paint, collage, collect artifacts… it’s up to you.

Email your contribution to livingapology@gmail.com along with a signed consent form. Download the form: PDF or .docx

Stories can be as anonymous (or not) as you prefer, and will never be shared without your clear consent.

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