29 years ago, The United Church of Canada did something historic when it voted not to exclude gay and lesbian people from eligibility for ministry and membership. This vote was celebrated by many and brought communities together. At the same time, this vote proved deeply divisive for some communities. Iridesce is asking people to reflect on this time and this decision throughout our history. 


Collected here are reflections, stories and community art that reflects our time of personal and community remembering, acknowledging, lament and sharing around topics of LGBTQ2+ experience in The United Church of Canada, from the time of our 1988 vote, through 'the issue years', up until today. You are welcome and invited to share about your experiences too.

Avoid being judgemental about 1988 from our 2017 perspective. Energy needs to be put into moving and...

Dear United Church, 

The thing that hurt the most was the way our minister, in Ottawa, a member of th...

Dear United Church, 

I worry that this apology, if it is given, will be motivated by many people who...

Dear United Church, 

I will accept your apology if you put your words into action by no longer allowi...

I am lesbian. 

I am a Minister. 

I am new to The United Church. 

I am grateful for the decision of 1988...

I don’t think there is “the Church” that can apologize for its members/adherents. The United Church...

Dear United Church, 

I’m writing to inform you that I strongly believe that an apology is long due to...

Iridesce sat with Sue (not her real name), for a discussion around gay and lesbian ordination in the...

I wish I had known the world was about to change. 

I wish I had known that I was not broken, tha...

God help us. It’s been hard for me to understand how so many people who call themselves Christians c...

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To contribute your perspective or experience: write, make a video, create draw, paint, collage, collect artifacts… it’s up to you.

Email your contribution to livingapology@gmail.com along with a signed consent form. Download the form: PDF or .docx

Stories can be as anonymous (or not) as you prefer, and will never be shared without your clear consent.

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