29 years ago, The United Church of Canada did something historic when it voted not to exclude gay and lesbian people from eligibility for ministry and membership. This vote was celebrated by many and brought communities together. At the same time, this vote proved deeply divisive for some communities. Iridesce is asking people to reflect on this time and this decision throughout our history. 


Collected here are reflections, stories and community art that reflects our time of personal and community remembering, acknowledging, lament and sharing around topics of LGBTQ2+ experience in The United Church of Canada, from the time of our 1988 vote, through 'the issue years', up until today. You are welcome and invited to share about your experiences too.

Dear United Church, 

I want you to know that you were my dream church. I remember in 1998 I was a hig...

My Sunday School teacher or YUCh as we called it (Youth of United Church) was the first adult I told...

Hello there.

I’m an asexual man who loves other men &

my home church makes me feel like

I have no spa...

I read your story, Ruth, and I want you to know that we are getting to a place where no one will hav...

A word collage: 


LOVE / Hope / Prayer / Equality / Miraculous

Acceptance / Support / Unity / Fai...

I’d like to tell gay, lesbian or trans Christian people… 

That we don’t — and won’t — always get it r...

Dear United Church, 

The thing that has hurt the most is that almost 30 years ago after the 1988 deci...

In 1988, I was 14 years old. I was a member of a fundamentalist extremist cult. I was also so deeply...

I wish this issue would not divide our community, our church and our family. Why is it that anyone t...

Dear United Church, 

I am thinking of ways we could acknowledge the trauma and harm done to LGBTQ fol...

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To contribute your perspective or experience: write, make a video, create draw, paint, collage, collect artifacts… it’s up to you.

Email your contribution to livingapology@gmail.com along with a signed consent form. Download the form: PDF or .docx

Stories can be as anonymous (or not) as you prefer, and will never be shared without your clear consent.

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