Living for something, not against something

Rabbi Harold S. Kushner wrote a book, published in 1981, titled When Bad Things Happen to Good People (Random House). He wrote of a Holocaust survivor who chose to focus on the future, not the past, and that "accusing other people of being responsible for your misery only makes a lonely person lonelier. Life has to lived for something, not against something."

If you seek an apology it is because you see yourself as a victim and not receiving that apology perpetuates your victimization. My chosen alternative is to forgive those I perceive to have done me harm and move on so that I am no longer a victim. I can do this privately, perhaps in prayer, or I can choose to do so openly and in public, alone or with other like-spirited people. The important element of that choice is that it is mine not someone else's. Maybe that approach might work for others.

By, one of your Peterborough participants

(Shared with permission. Photo credit: Wix.)